A New Kind of Year Resolution

Jan 08, 2016 by admin Comments: 0

t this time of year we are bombarded with talk of New Year’s resolutions. Maybe you made a list of your own. I’ve read some articles claiming that we are better at breaking our resolutions than achieving or even making them. People make all sorts of resolutions for new calendar years: Lose the weight Get the guy/girl Make more money Eat healthier Travel more Read 50 books Apply for a course/training program And the list could go on. We hear people saying to choose one word to guide your year and every leadership guru once told us to make SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, etc). These are great little tricks in specific contexts. With so many of us making & breaking New Year’s resolutions, I started to wonder if we could do better. Maybe it’s time our old way of handling the New Year got a makeover. In Solution-focused Therapy we often ask people to rank how they experience something on a scale (maybe 1 means terrible and 10 means great). The next step is to ask what would need to change to move you up the scale just a little bit. What if we extended this approach to how […] Read More

Making Faithful Relationships

hese days, the news seems to be full of cheating scandals. Several news-makers had their extramarital activities exposed through the recent Ashley Madison data breach or divorce proceedings. Some researchers estimate 40% of all couples (not just the celebrities) will experience infidelity and its devastating effects. With these numbers, you may wonder how anyone can avoid an affair. The good news is that a proactive approach can help make your relationship stronger to avoid pain. You can sit back and ask how to keep yourself or your partner from cheating or you can take some steps to do something about it. Read More

Communicating? Consider this…

Many challenges in relationships are the result of poor communication. Almost every area of your relationship can be improved by better communication. Try thinking of your closest relationships. When is the last time you were able to resolve a conflict without communication? How about budgeting, sharing housework or building sexual intimacy? What if you have kids and need to work through issues of parenting? The quality of your communication can either help or hurt your relationship in each of these areas. Our words can be powerful so it is worth the effort to try to send our message in a way that can strengthen our relationship. When you are ready to improve your communication there are some basics you may want to consider. Read More

Navigate the Holiday Season with Less Stress and More Joy

Dec 07, 2014 by admin Comments: 0

he time of year where carollers sing, “Joy to the World” can also be a very difficult time of year for many people. If you find yourself filled with stress over family events, budgets, diets, or the looming New Year, you are not alone. Perhaps you are one of the many people who find themselves thinking of lost loved ones during the holiday season- whether it is the first or fortieth year without them. You may also fit the category of someone who just finds they enjoy the season less than normal or feel like you simply have no energy to find joy this year. If any of these experiences sound like what you are facing, here are some tips to help you navigate the season with a little more joy. Read More